tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post7042602027716414259..comments2023-09-08T04:07:42.135-04:00Comments on Nicholas' Touch: My HusbandLeahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05569964047627902570noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-89546308240187861262009-09-29T17:30:12.130-04:002009-09-29T17:30:12.130-04:00Relationships are certainly tested when your baby ...Relationships are certainly tested when your baby dies. My husband and I have also grown stronger together. Last night I showed him Carleigh's slideshow that I made to celebrate her 6 month birthday. After he watched it he said, "I miss her." He had tears in his eyes and I hugged him and told him "I miss her too." Then he said, "There was nothing I could do." "No, honey, there was nothing we could do." Then we both said I love you. A moment that shows that he is still hurting just like me and misses her so much.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-47151410249059941612009-09-28T14:48:31.562-04:002009-09-28T14:48:31.562-04:00Lea, you are an amazing couple. It is with such a ...Lea, you are an amazing couple. It is with such a great love that Nicholas was born. It is just an inspiration the closeness that you two have. I hope to also get there. At times is it just so hard to open up.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16071927168876473000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-53957287033713113602009-09-27T14:04:23.405-04:002009-09-27T14:04:23.405-04:00Lea,
wanted you to know that I read your post to ...Lea, <br />wanted you to know that I read your post to my husband as your words rang so perfectly true for us. I know he feels forgotten alot and I try to always recognize that his grief is as big as mine. <br />I was really struck by your words about the intimacy between you two that nobody will ever be able to touch. That really describes how we cleaved together over losing Cayden. Nobody will ever be able to touch that. I feel the safest and most myself when I am with him. <br />I am so glad you are able to roll over at night as I do and know you are not alone in your heartache.Cristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11808760498736313382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-13366093398583010152009-09-27T02:28:57.810-04:002009-09-27T02:28:57.810-04:00What a sweet post and so true. Sometimes men get f...What a sweet post and so true. Sometimes men get forgotten in the middle of grief. I do not think women grieve more just diffrent. I hope the next couple weeks go as good as possible for your family . <br /><br />RoxanneRoxannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11971136411305387134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-70515402544609412792009-09-26T22:31:08.677-04:002009-09-26T22:31:08.677-04:00Lea, what a sweet post, I am glad you and hubby ar...Lea, what a sweet post, I am glad you and hubby are strong as it helps so much to have that wonderful support system in place. You have a beautiful family, in heaven and on earth. Thanks for remembering and honoring the guys in our lives. One of the reasons for our forum for men! Hugs, Nan xoNanhttp://rememberingourtripletangels.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-6669113912252473872009-09-26T20:59:36.208-04:002009-09-26T20:59:36.208-04:00I love this. I share so many thoughts with you ab...I love this. I share so many thoughts with you about my husband. I am so glad for you that you have an amazing support. I think it can make all the difference in the journey. Not always, but I don't want to find out the oppostite!<br />Beautiful, Lea.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-65502697830719758122009-09-26T20:16:36.632-04:002009-09-26T20:16:36.632-04:00Lea,
I'm sure that your sweet Nicholas is loo...Lea,<br /><br />I'm sure that your sweet Nicholas is looking down from heaven and smiling at how wonderful his mommy and daddy are. We will all remember Nicholas with you on November 7th... and forever. Thank you for remembering my Isaiah. God Bless.Jennifer Rosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619769165667422761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-87011694520391765252009-09-26T17:12:15.360-04:002009-09-26T17:12:15.360-04:00what a sweet post.. your husband is very lucky to ...what a sweet post.. your husband is very lucky to have you.. we have had ups and downs too..sometimes I have to remind myself, she was his baby too.. he loved her just as much as I.. So many people grow apart during loss like this, I admire your insight to agree early on to not let it happen to you.. I will be thinking of you both during the upcoming weeks..Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07386710835021940223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-33459902046705100662009-09-26T10:09:24.359-04:002009-09-26T10:09:24.359-04:00you are so strong and i look to you for strenght. ...you are so strong and i look to you for strenght. Thank youEmaleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01064444532340246009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-61709022125283981972009-09-26T08:22:10.939-04:002009-09-26T08:22:10.939-04:00Beautifully written testament to your love of your...Beautifully written testament to your love of your husband. I'm glad you both pulled closer together rather than let grief tear you apart.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03740847681453723883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-67008294548936579102009-09-26T05:56:44.176-04:002009-09-26T05:56:44.176-04:00I'm glad you're pulling together in this t...I'm glad you're pulling together in this time of grief. Thank you for sharing this part of your journey. Thinking of you as your baby boy's Angel Day draws nearer. (((hugs)))Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01771397595613026711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-89280482132849288142009-09-26T00:59:04.987-04:002009-09-26T00:59:04.987-04:00You and your husband and family will be in my pray...You and your husband and family will be in my prayers. I know the impending arrival of Nicholas' Angel Day will be tough, and I am so very thankful you and your husband can support one another.Please know I support you, too, in my heart.<br />Sarita<br />sboyette@tx.rr.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-1787100951161769572009-09-26T00:10:43.807-04:002009-09-26T00:10:43.807-04:00What a wonderful post. The way you described our ...What a wonderful post. The way you described our husbands' grief is very eye opening. Men and women differ so vastly, but we hurt just the same when it comes to our children. xxTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15149337445828424583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-43970191984716692462009-09-25T21:07:50.019-04:002009-09-25T21:07:50.019-04:00Beautiful tribute to the wonderful man in your lif...Beautiful tribute to the wonderful man in your life, Lea.<br />xoHope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-72143498782480561602009-09-25T18:25:16.637-04:002009-09-25T18:25:16.637-04:00So sweet - as horrible as it is - there is somethi...So sweet - as horrible as it is - there is something wonderful that can come of this - and its knowing you have each other. I grieved heavily in the beginning and the whole time my husband held it together - he was such a good daddy - he insisted on carrying Daniel's little casket - he said "I'm his father - I should carry him". He did so many things during such a hard time that made me respect him so much more. I learned from him - a year later he is grieving in his own way and I am trying my hardest to be there for him. I think that is what its all about. Make sure he reads your post - something tells me he already knows!Marissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10535064759135390374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-50501877934932065742009-09-25T13:55:32.942-04:002009-09-25T13:55:32.942-04:00You are very lucky to have each other. It's be...You are very lucky to have each other. It's been up and down for us. Somedays were in synch and other days we are not. I feel badly for my husband because he has had to keep on working while I've been able to sit still with my grief. I wish he had the time to just be for a while. I'm thinking of you as Nicholas' day nears.Breehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03894396436704042272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-3266051305001515592009-09-25T12:46:20.796-04:002009-09-25T12:46:20.796-04:00Beautiful post Lea, you have a great guy on this j...Beautiful post Lea, you have a great guy on this journey w/ you. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers as you approach Nicholas Angel Day. I'm here for you. With Love, CarlyCarlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08674441266229192655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-67472188321796299892009-09-25T11:38:14.122-04:002009-09-25T11:38:14.122-04:00You are so right Lea, I have heard time and again ...You are so right Lea, I have heard time and again how many couples lose sight of their loving marriage due to the loss of a child. Jason and I are also not one of those couples. We grew stronger together and never lose sight of each other or how the other person grieves. We openly communicate with each other. He lost his son's too and he hurts in a different way than I did. It just breaks my heart but I do not know what I would do without my loving husband. <br /><br />I am so glad that you and your husband are beating the odds. You are amazing.<br /><br />*hugs*Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11725206633751351133noreply@blogger.com