tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post4156861948671655126..comments2023-09-08T04:07:42.135-04:00Comments on Nicholas' Touch: "The Question"Leahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05569964047627902570noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-40667067463983766862009-04-13T15:49:00.000-04:002009-04-13T15:49:00.000-04:00I know what you mean...3 1/2 years after losing Ch...I know what you mean...3 1/2 years after losing Chelsea..I say 3 kids. Two that live with me, one that Lives with God. Sometimes I say 2 depending on the person asking..also to protect myself. My son (age 6 ) always mentions his sister. We are open and so is he...I have to say some are surprised that he mentions her so openly...not sure if I will understand the suprise about that one??Jesse, James and Lindsey's momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07868055885665340606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-33196323208260296742009-04-07T05:56:00.000-04:002009-04-07T05:56:00.000-04:00It is such a painful question. I am glad I can now...It is such a painful question. I am glad I can now say I have a child but it does depend on the situation as to my answer. Sometimes I just don't have the energy to go into detail. And let's face it at that point when jaws drop you are a bus crash and everyone is looking.Kyleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00702236797438599075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-11277585535344706332009-04-07T02:00:00.000-04:002009-04-07T02:00:00.000-04:00I am just over 2 years out from losing Christian a...I am just over 2 years out from losing Christian and that question is always the hardest to me.... still. My answer changes all the time. I hate saying that I have 2 girls and that is it. I feel as though I am lying. Sometimes I just don't want to make the other person feel bad or awkward. Such a hard thing isn't it.<BR/><BR/>xxxxxCarly Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14586501928364642712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-21737771562301162009-04-06T03:57:00.000-04:002009-04-06T03:57:00.000-04:00Yes, it's hard, and it never goes away. I came up ...Yes, it's hard, and it never goes away. I came up with a standard response (what you said sounded perfect, but with no pause or waiting for a comment, just "we have 3 boys, we lost our youngest last November") - beat them to it and you get to maintain the conversation control. Then go into more detail if you want or feel you can. So glad that person gave you the chance to elaborate and the out if you didn't want to. So rare. But so great of her.<BR/><BR/>The question will always be asked, the breath catching ache of the question and inevitable answer doesn't go away but it will get easier. ((hugs)) xxalliecathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06147888501927922319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-38640953538047878282009-04-05T17:50:00.000-04:002009-04-05T17:50:00.000-04:00Good job, Lea. Honest. Kind. Respectful to you and...Good job, Lea. Honest. Kind. Respectful to you and the other lady. Right on, other person at the table, for acknowledging the silence and awkwardness, and your journey. Doesn't it just suck that this question is so complicated?(((hugs)))still life angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15150141781089602529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-66150241980668963222009-04-05T15:44:00.000-04:002009-04-05T15:44:00.000-04:00"What happened?" Very few people have asked me tha..."What happened?" Very few people have asked me that. It would be "nice" if more did. Even if I couldn't answer.<BR/><BR/>There <I>are</I> a lot of people pulling for you Lea.<BR/><BR/>xxxBarbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01484695553612265127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-49479732382365755172009-04-05T12:15:00.000-04:002009-04-05T12:15:00.000-04:00DH & I don't always answer this the same w...DH & I don't always answer this the same way. I say three, DH chooses 2 or 3 depending on how comfortable he feels with the questioner. That's okay, we're both just saying what we need to say to protect our hearts.Fireflyforeverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15290560217994184778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-25607676506053643712009-04-05T11:20:00.000-04:002009-04-05T11:20:00.000-04:00(((hugs)))(((hugs)))Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04602706939281669017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-89151158641936795552009-04-05T11:00:00.000-04:002009-04-05T11:00:00.000-04:00I know, the question is the hardest ever. I'm gla...I know, the question is the hardest ever. I'm glad you were able to include Nicholas in your answer, hard as it is.ezra'smommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17342399045659116165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-29704226639659144712009-04-05T10:30:00.000-04:002009-04-05T10:30:00.000-04:00its so hard! I have no living children and it. I f...its so hard! I have no living children and it. I finally get to say YES to the question, but then have the hard time with what is to follow! hugs my heart is with you and your family! again we posted at the same time and had to say the same thing. Pretty much anyways :)Emaleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01064444532340246009noreply@blogger.com