tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post2101637570591140361..comments2023-09-08T04:07:42.135-04:00Comments on Nicholas' Touch: OvercompensatingLeahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05569964047627902570noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-83998209241810922622010-01-21T01:31:18.377-05:002010-01-21T01:31:18.377-05:00I feel the same way and want to find the perfect b...I feel the same way and want to find the perfect balance between Gwen knowing all about Gregory, without her thinking she was a replacement. I love this post and your announcement. I'm still so thrilled that you have your little girl safe with you.Never forgetting Gregoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12791819761431846156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-15192223356324497282010-01-20T15:54:40.474-05:002010-01-20T15:54:40.474-05:00I am too thinking if my next child will feel like ...I am too thinking if my next child will feel like they were here only as a replacement. It is so hard to explain that to a child. <br /><br />Love the rainbow comment.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16071927168876473000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-70324619081406662822010-01-19T17:18:34.338-05:002010-01-19T17:18:34.338-05:00I really like the birth announcement!! And I reall...I really like the birth announcement!! And I really enjoyed your post and it made me think. And you're so right about not letting Madison feel like a replacement child. I know that I wouldn't want any future babies to feel like they were.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-66330411697333578872010-01-18T21:15:23.921-05:002010-01-18T21:15:23.921-05:00What a fine line to walk, but I have no doubt that...What a fine line to walk, but I have no doubt that you will do it perfectly, and with beauty and grace. All of your children will rest confident in your love for them. ((Hugs))Bluebirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05026618678540051581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-4860269766300806532010-01-17T16:15:00.373-05:002010-01-17T16:15:00.373-05:00Madison's birth announcement is beautiful. Per...Madison's birth announcement is beautiful. Perfect.<br /><br />It is hard to strike the right balance but I'm sure that your sweet Nicholas knows how deeply he is loved. xoCatherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-24566970467399247092010-01-16T21:36:21.963-05:002010-01-16T21:36:21.963-05:00I love Madison's birth announcement.
I buy s...I love Madison's birth announcement. <br /><br />I buy stuff for Shealyn ALL the time...in fact I bought her a little stuffed dog for Valentine's day :/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-73641434713416469462010-01-16T15:12:35.676-05:002010-01-16T15:12:35.676-05:00I love Madison's birth announcement. Absolute...I love Madison's birth announcement. Absolutely gorgeous.<br />I just think that there's nothing you could ever do that would be too much for Nicholas or overcompensating for him Anything that somehow makes you feel closer to him. I know the guilt-and that is hard, but I so get it. WE get it.Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01498901545149667223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-18582098932672804892010-01-15T23:24:25.506-05:002010-01-15T23:24:25.506-05:00I also feel like I'm overcompensating for not ...I also feel like I'm overcompensating for not being able to keep Jasper safe. Beautiful announcement.Lisa and Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07397367920807045315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-45907303666446927552010-01-15T22:46:33.509-05:002010-01-15T22:46:33.509-05:00I love your post! I think part of the reason we w...I love your post! I think part of the reason we want to buy things, talk about, and keep the memory alive of our angels is because it is what feels normal to us! In NORMAL circumstances you would be holding him, talking about him, and buying things for him. So the natural result of pregnancy and birth is the need to do those things, and it helps us feel more normal. Don't be too hard on yourself.<br />And the announcement is beautiful and perfect! Nicholas is smiling from Heaven!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04683239109034382788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-91723380839056592782010-01-15T19:01:00.600-05:002010-01-15T19:01:00.600-05:00Beautiful announcement. I don't think you'...Beautiful announcement. I don't think you're overcompensating - I think you are just trying to continue to parent Nicholas - even though you can't have him in your arms to care for - your words and thoughts of him daily help. I carry the same guilt you mention - but I carry that same guilt for my other children too - like when my son split his lip wide open when he was two. I think the guilt is normal (as normal has it can be)and its all a part of being a good mom.Marissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10535064759135390374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-91342943708548572892010-01-15T17:39:19.380-05:002010-01-15T17:39:19.380-05:00Thank you Lea for articulating some of the very th...Thank you Lea for articulating some of the very things I too am struggling with. My husband has been concerned from day one that Georgia would grow up in the shadow of her brother's death but it's so hard to celebrate her life without including Calvin too. Maddie is a wonderful gift, a longed for child that I can't ever see you making feel "a replacement". I feel by now that I know you well enough to say that you have enough love for all of your children, including Nicholas and that nothing could or would change that love for him, not even your rainbow baby. While people on the outside might not get that love, I do. I will always love Calvin separately from Georgia although in my early days of grief it was her I poured my love into. Sending you hugsmargarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16494588299838654564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-65277743820966954732010-01-15T16:19:36.957-05:002010-01-15T16:19:36.957-05:00I love your post, I am always purchasing things as...I love your post, I am always purchasing things as well and hope they will help me in some way and they often do. I love the birth announcement.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03960284624015467516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-76708920609732219322010-01-15T16:07:46.447-05:002010-01-15T16:07:46.447-05:00Madison's birth announcement is perfect. I lov...Madison's birth announcement is perfect. I love the phrase "another color to our family's rainbow".<br /><br />Loving from afar is difficult indeed.<br /><br />xxxBarbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01484695553612265127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-83093017062502592612010-01-15T14:04:02.484-05:002010-01-15T14:04:02.484-05:00I think all of us Mommies who have lost a baby fee...I think all of us Mommies who have lost a baby feel like this...I still get things for Ella, but I try to make sure I know why I am buying it, where I am going to put it, and that it is "special" to me. I know I do it for me, not for her, so I try to get things that mean something to me. But I am drawn to everything and its hard to hold back, especially being that I dont have another baby or child to buy for. The announcement is perfect, and beautiful. She will know she is not a replacement, but a wonderful addition.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16919858828076683248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-11842356707464937962010-01-15T13:23:24.780-05:002010-01-15T13:23:24.780-05:00what a beautiful announcement.. it is just perfect...what a beautiful announcement.. it is just perfect. I love the part "her very own guardian angel." It is just lovely.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05007474885671559328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-46398441389718778872010-01-15T13:13:18.490-05:002010-01-15T13:13:18.490-05:00PerfectPerfectMaloryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15474835486480023516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-59112169891382139852010-01-15T12:47:26.759-05:002010-01-15T12:47:26.759-05:00Beautiful, the birth annoucement is perfect. You h...Beautiful, the birth annoucement is perfect. You have inspired my own post about overcompensating. Its strange how things you read on other baby lost momma blogs, makes you think about your own life. *hugs*Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15134970929000997104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-87251096287805159662010-01-15T11:59:53.031-05:002010-01-15T11:59:53.031-05:00Lea, this is such a beautiful post in so many ways...Lea, this is such a beautiful post in so many ways and you have a beautiful family. I love Madison's birth announcement and think it is simply perfect.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15349971620040597427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6497597673130157461.post-35251710510414442712010-01-15T10:55:07.817-05:002010-01-15T10:55:07.817-05:00Lea, I just loved this post. You spoke for so many...Lea, I just loved this post. You spoke for so many of our hearts. I wouldn't have put it any other way! I feel so much like you do. <br /><br />The pictures in the last couple posts are so cute:} and the family picture is beautiful.<br /><br />Love,<br />JennyJennifer Rosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619769165667422761noreply@blogger.com